Dusshera Lingers On. Year After Year!

So, everyone was busy celebrating Dussehra yesterday...

So was I.

By the way what do we celebrate? 

Burn effigies of  Ravana, Kumbhkarana & Meghnada - enjoy the 

fireworks - dance to the drums - gorge on an assortment of sweets - the day is over.

By the way why do we celebrate? 

Just because we search for reasons to celebrate -  as it goes on from generations - the customs we have seen from our childhood - to just be happy.

Do you opine that Vijaydashmi is much more than that? ---- was I not supposed to be enumerating an essay on Dussehra in school days? Or am I suffering from amnesia? 

Don't I know that it is being celebrated to admire the victory of good over evil!

Yes, yes --- I do remember it all, but I doubt whether it is at all true in today's scenario!

Aren't we making a fool of ourselves by believing that burning effigies of so called evils from a remote past suffices the purpose? How can we be happy just by that? How can we close our eyes to the much enormous and more devilish "Ravanas" roaming all around wearing masks of "Ram"! 

Are we doing anything to conquer them? How can a bigger disguised Ravana burn the effigy of Ravana with applaud?

I opine we should burn the present - day evil inside and outside -  then celebrate that victory. 

That will be the truthful joy which will not be just for the sake of enjoying the festival.

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Why Only The Woman Has To Pay The Price ----- WHY?

          Why is it that our society is so insensitive towards the fairer sex? On one hand, religion and culture prevalent in our society worship Goddesses and on the other hand, females have to bear such abuses in their life that being born as a girl is thought to be a curse by them.

          Not just one but at numerous stages of her life, she has to pay the price of being a woman. WHY?

           Be it -------- even before her birth i.e. female infanticide to child abuse (either sexual or child labor or child marriage or gender discrimination among siblings for that matter) to eve teasing in her youth to dowry harassment after marriage to being asked to keep on ' adjusting & compromising ' to keep the marriage alive whether for her own sake or for her family's pride or for her children (being a concerned mother) to bear the brunt of the in-laws if she gives birth to a girl child -------- at every stage, she curses herself as to WHY! -------- WHY only she has to bear the brunt while at all the above stages it is the man who is responsible too (or perhaps he is the only one responsible).

          Let's review all the above stages to strengthen my point :-

• Before Birth -- The female infanticide -- girl child being killed for no fault of hers -- Who was responsible for it -- the Father (male) -- His X Chromosome instead of Y decided the whole thing -- then why is she being killed! Why does not the responsible Father get the rebuke of all (if at all someone has to be killed for this stupid reason).
• After Birth -- Child abuse -- innocent child unaware of this wild forest and carnivorous beasts roaming around -- bears the brunt -- WHY? -- Why should not these beasts be burnt?
• Child Labor -- Missing her right to education and bearing with elderly chores -- Why should the child suffer -- Why not the Employer?
• Child Marriage -- The girl who wishes to study and make her career -- being thrown in front of a male  in the form of a bride to bear the brunt of this ridiculous tradition at a tender age -- Why should not the parents of both the boy and the girl be punished?
• Gender Discrimination Among Siblings -- Girls directed by the parents to be docile and boys allowed to do anything they wish to with full elan -- it is this discrimination right from childhood which later on leads to eve teasing and other abuses hurled by boys in their youth.
• Dowry Harassment -- One of the prime evils of all times -- The girl completes the boy after marriage -- and bears his children -- then what for is she paying the dowry to him and his family? 
• After Marriage -- The wife and husband are the two pans of a  scale which should be proportionately balanced at all times -- then how come our society always expects girls to adjust to keep everything alive in their life? Why all the calmness is expected from her (and that also rewardless) and all the aggression is the birth right of the male? -- Why do men feel elated after venting out their frustration on women -- What is it that holds back men from accepting their misdeeds and correcting them gracefully?

WHY can't this gender inequality vanish in thin air for PEACE to prevail at both the ends and proper balance  be maintained in the society?

There is an urgent need to RingTheBell for all the above causes...
To guide the would - be parents not to imbalance the sex ratio and parent their boys in such a manner that they value gender equality with applause.

Who Is Responsible --- Kids/Parents Or The System ?

Every coin has two sides but why is it that every thing in our society turns out to be such that it carries a negative side to its positive side ? Why can't we just enjoy & enjoy it all ?

       I am here referring to the board results of Class XII.
 A wave of good news to be read and so many happy faces of teenagers cherishing their happy moments which they achieved after years of hard work.

         News of differently abled children doing so well too.
         Govt school children who for years turned out to be dark horses now winning the race since few years.
         Girls once again over shining boys in the run.
         So many statistical reports and overwhelming parents whose children did them proud.

  But then the negative side erupts from nowhere ! Two girls kill themselves after seeing their board results. God forbid, I wish we don't have to get any more of such news (although we get to read many every year).

       

What is this the pressure of? Who is responsible for all this? The child himself/herself for not being able to cope with the failure! Or the parents, who perhaps pressurized their wards so blindly that he/she chose the wrong path of suicide instead of facing them! Or the norms of our society which puts the pressure of stigma on the family which in turn is transferred to the child!

          Why does the result become the ultimate yardstick of the child's future and even  the deciding factor of his life or death? Is there nothing beyond this in sight? Is it all dark for such students?

           I think its time to show them that there  are so many options open in life for them too. Although counselling lines are being set up by the board, still first hand immediate assurance from the friends, parents, relatives & neighbors ( who are in their immediate vicinity ) can help a lot.

           Please keep your eyes, hearts & minds open and accept all high & low caliber children  with equal weightage. Everyone in this world is destined to carve his/her own niche.

Shame Shame Shame To The Power Infinity

Another brutal rape case in Delhi - this time a small kid of five years brutally raped. She is suffering from severe pains for no fault of hers.

 

Girl, is she just an object? A toy to be used by boys/men and then shredded to pieces. This is neither brutalilty nor barbaric animalism. That is too mild a word for them. These male members of the society are much worst than the animals. Animals are much better than them. Even they don't treat their females like this.

 

High time to control it - by the police or by the society? For getting the solution to the disease, it's cause is to be identified. Who are these Bas***ds who don't think twice before performing these acts. Why are they governed by their physical instincts and not by their hearts or brains?

 

The root cause lies in their upbringing. In our country boys are treated differently right from their childhood. They can abuse, smoke, drink, flirt, eavetease, spend days and nights loitering around the lanes doing any cheap acts. Even their mothers don't stop them. I think mothers, being ladies, who in their teens would have experienced eveteasing etc. must foresee these bahavioral patterns of their boys and should nip it in the bud. Mother should teach her son to respect girls. The approach of Indian mothers to overlook the bad behavior of their sons must be changed. She should not just teach her girl to protect herself from the boys by being at home but also guide her son to protect and respect girls other than his sisters.

 

At times even wives shelter their husbands for their misdeeds under social pressure. Like in this rape case of "Gudiya" the culprit Manoj is a habitual rapist. He raped his now wife before marriage and married her just because of Panchayat's pressure and to avoid imprisonment. And now when he got the chance, he did the shameful act again rather in a much brutal manner. But still his wife is protecting him. Isn't she doing a much wrongful act? She should rather stand for "Gudiya" and let Manoj get the severest punishment.

 

A strong message should be sent to these criminals through stricter laws that they can't escape the outcome in the form of just few years of imprisonment. The only solution is chemical castration if not the death sentence. Nothing less than this is acceptable.

 

So many rape cases are reported daily now a days and many remain unreported - many are by known people which indicates the sick mentality of these males. No counseling works for them (as happened in many serial rapist's cases reported) as they don't that their senses govern their body.

 

A complete overhaul of the upbringing of the boys in the society is the call of the day.

 

Amen... Hope for a protective future for the girls in India...